The wedding ring that you wear is not your promise. It is the promise your spouse gave to you.
Your promise resides on the finger of your spouse. Your faithfulness is on your spouse’s hand.
I’ve heard that when people are flirting with the idea of having an affair, they’ll start taking their wedding ring off. Their intention, of course, is to pretend – or to appear- that they are not committed to anyone in marriage. But the ridiculous thing about a person taking the ring off of their finger is that they are actually taking their spouse’s symbol of faithfulness off! Technically, if a husband removes the wedding ring from his finger, he has actually removed the symbol of his wife’s faithfulness to him! Meanwhile, his promise still resides on his wife’s hand. The symbol of his vow of faithfulness to his wife is still with her. The promise of his to-death-do-us-part commitment is still visible on her hand. He has only succeeded in removing his wife’s symbol of marital love.
So, if I were to look down on my left hand and see that gold wedding band… I would not be looking at my vow of marriage. I’d be looking at my wife’s vow. That is the ring my wife gave me as a symbol of her faithful love to me. It is not my promise to her, it is hers to me. I wear it not as a reminder of my faithfulness, but of hers. No matter where I am, no matter what I am doing, that ring reminds me of my wife’s love and commitment to me.
My promise, my vow, my life-dedication is on her hand. In that way, no matter where she goes or what she is doing, she is reminded that I am being faithfully devoted to her.
Tomorrow is my 14th anniversary. I love what the ring on my finger represents. It encourages me, it renews me, it gives me security and hope and steadfastness. It reminds me that no matter what is happening, my wife is with me through the richer and poorer, sickness and health. The ring on my finger is my wife’s promise of love. That’s amazing.