One extreme way of dealing with our doubts and disappointments in God is to pretend like we don’t struggle with them. Many, many, many church people are on this extreme. They think, “maybe I should just ignore my doubt and just say “I believe”. But to disregard our spiritual struggle is to neglect that portion of ourselves that needs to be touched by God. Failing to face our doubts and disappointments will stall our faith. Many, many church goers are at the same place spiritually that they were years and years ago… because they have not had the courage to deal honestly with their doubts and disappointments. The failure to engage God with our struggles produces a stalled faith.
The other extreme way of dealing with doubt and disappointment in God is to become consumed with them to the point of disengagement with God. Sometimes we can wallow in our them. We can entertain our doubts; Host them. Maybe we should throw dinner parties for them and spend time with them and coddle them? Many, many people do… and it crushes their faith. They begin to separate faith from their struggles- spending time with doubts on their own while casting God to the side. People can spend tremendous amounts of religious energy sulking in doubts and disappointments, pessimizing about God, who seems to become more and more distant. It’s like wrestling by yourself! If we have a question about God or the way God is doing something, maybe we should entertain God in that conversation… instead of shutting him out! Consuming ourselves in doubt and disappointment will wreck us. The failure to engage God with our struggles produces a stalled faith.