Make An Allowance


Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13 NLT

We think of an allowance as a sum of money that a parent might give to their kids each week.

But in his letter to the Colossians, Paul’s idea of an allowance had more to do with giving people room to make mistakes. “Make allowance for each other’s faults,” he taught.

Letting our kids make mistakes is one of the more difficult aspects of being a parent. We can be tempted to either step-in and save-the-day and keep them from harm. Or we can get upset and chew them out again and again for their failures. We can sometimes feel embarrassed by the wrong decisions or the ridiculous errors our kids make.

But here’s the thing. A parent’s love is never conditional. Our love for our children is not a reward for getting good grades or making their bed. Making allowance for each other’s faults is about giving space for mistakes and giving room for growth. It is about forgiving when forgiveness is needed. It is about remembering that God our Father has made room for us to grow to be more like him… and so we should extend the same sort of love to our children.

God, thank you for the forgiveness you have shown me. Help me love my own family in the same way. Amen.

I recently wrote this for a devotional book recently, but it didn’t make the cut because the verse was already taken. 🙂 It’s good stuff though, so thought I’d add it here. Hope you enjoyed.
Ken Castor

Ken Castor is a husband, dad, pastor, writer and teacher. He serves as a professor at Crown College, Minnesota, where he equips students to pursue Jesus-Centered Faith and Next Generation Ministry. For 20+ years he's focused on equipping the next generations in places like the U.S., Canada, and Northern Ireland. He's the author of Grow Down (Simply Youth Ministry, 2014), Make a Difference (Broadstreet, 2016), the Blue-Letters Editor of the Jesus-Centered Bible (Group, 2015) and numerous other articles and Bible Study guides. But, whenever possible, he gets down on the floor and builds Lego with his kids. Connect with him @kencastor.

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